Can a strong independent woman build a harmonious relationship with a man? How do men feel about this and what are the myths about female power – commented psychologist.
Often successful and self-sufficient women remain single. What qualities prevent them from building a personal happy life?
The psychologist claims that, often, it is not personal qualities that are to blame for a woman’s loneliness, but the life story that affected her character. When a person has to bear great responsibility, to be brave, in order not to perish under life circumstances, he becomes overly controlling.
A woman who always manages on her own is good, but with “strength” comes a position, I control everything. Such women, as a rule, speak in a commanding voice, check and coordinate everything. This kind of behavior causes tension in others.
There is an opinion that a woman who “took life into her own hands” wants to prove something to others. Claims that this is a delusion. The fact is that such a person, as a rule, bears great responsibility for himself, for his team, for children.
This is not about me demonstrating my position to the world. The point is that a woman cannot afford to get rid of this responsibility.
Such women are looking for a partner with whom they will not have to pretend, pretend to be an idiot, weak or stupid.
Criteria for the perception of strong women by men
A strong woman very often gives the impression that she does not need a man. It’s like she’s showing off her hypocrisy. In this case, the man has nothing to approach her with, nothing to offer her. A woman, as if, occupies all the space with herself and there is a feeling that you don’t want to be around. We are not talking about the fact that such a woman is uninteresting, ugly, or, conversely, a too weak man next to her. The fact is that a woman who demonstrates her autonomy everywhere is not attractive for a relationship. She demonstrates to the man over and over again – I can handle without you myself.
Why then should a man approach her? Every woman with a strong will needs to think – is the one who comes up to you necessarily a person who wants to take something away? Perhaps this is a person who wants to enjoy this life next to you?
There is an opinion that a strong woman next to a man should hide her strength.
Psychologist believes that this is a delusion and such behavior can lead to a nervous breakdown, since a person will have to hide his nature all the time. A man will also feel false. The best position for a woman is to trust her husband.
Portrait of a woman that a man wants to see next to him
As can be seen from the diagram below, the portrait of a woman attractive to a man is not associated with external data. This is just a feeling of how a person feels next to another person – pleasant or not pleasant.
The ideal woman according to men:
- it’s easy with her
- she knows how to be happy
- she is energetic and harmonious
- she needs a spouse, but she herself is not helpless
- she is free from her own complexes and admires herself
- she knows how to decorate life with herself and accept as a gift the energy that a person gives her.